Why did I start writing?

Hey!

I like working out and going to the gym but I get bored extremely fast, so in order to keep working out I had to find a solution to not get bored in the gym... I tried going with friends, listening to music, self motivation and nothing... I know that it is healthy to work out (plus i have to lose some weight, you know like EVERY girl in the world) but it is also time consuming, so I really needed to find a solution! So what do I like to do?! I love to watch movies/TV series, to read and to learn new things. I decided that I need to be more productive therefor I started watching TEDx talks and this is how I found this amazing TEDx talk, that made me thinking... I started to ask myself what drives me to write... I keep a journal, a notebook full with dreams and wishes, I make lists, I write posts online, but why? The answer is more simpler than I expected: it helps me, it calms me, and more important it makes me more creative and in tune with life...

Do you like to write? Why yes and more important why not?

Happy monthiversary!

Hey!

Sometimes I wonder why people feel the need to celebrate everything or anything, especially when you are in a relationship... When we are in high school everything is new so we tend to celebrate everything, but when we grow older we tend to take things for grated and either we expect that nothing good will happen and then we celebrate every good thing that happens to us, or we stop celebrating at all. 

I love to celebrate everything (all most everything to be honest)! I love celebrating all the major good and bad things that happen to me...WAAAAAAAAAIT! Bad things?! Who does that?! Oh well, me... I think that everything that happens to a person is a gift from God so we have to celebrate it, no?

Do you remember the worst thing that ever happen to you? You thought in that moment that your life will end, but it didn't! And somehow you manage to overcome every bad situation in your life and you become stronger. I think that remembering the bad moments in life helps you be grateful for everything that you have now and also keeps your ego in check.

I don't know why but for us, as human beings, it is more simple to remember the bad moments in life and not the good ones and also complain (A LOT) about them, which is time consuming and completely unproductive. If we complain about something that will not help us fix it or overcome it, maybe it will take away part of our sadness, but just part of it. At some point I realize all of this and since then I have another perspective about life and I try to not take life so personal. And by that I mean that not all the bad things that happen to me are meant to hurt me, some are there to make me stronger and others just to teach me a lesson.

One year ago I thought that my life will end (I was in a really really bad place) and how much I wanted to believe that everything will be OK I still couldn't see it happening in the near future, but I keep hoping... And now (one year later) things are better than i hoped them to be, which is overwhelming. Normally, i still have not-that-good days but I don't have anymore this feeling that my life will end only because a bad thing happen. The funny thing about "bad things" is that usually they are not bad, they are just not the way that we wanted them to be (which is childish).

Let's talk about another kind of celebration...celebrating the really small things that happen to you on a daily basis. How many of us really do that? To be honest, I try my best to acknowledge every good thing that happen to me every day, but some days i forget. And now a question is born: how is that helping us? Well if we acknowledge every good thing that happen to us no matter how small (like drinking your favorite coffee in the morning) our mood is changing and we tend to enjoy life more, don't you agree? I don't think you have to be on a holiday or out with your friends to enjoy this small things, actually we SHOULD do them every day. Why?! From a statistical point of view we spend more time at work or working than doing other activities (this if you are not extremely rich and you don't need to work in order to maintain yourself), so why be miserable all this time waiting for the free time to enjoy life?! You might agree with me ("yeah! that's seems like a good idea but it's hard to that when your SOB of a boss yells at you for no good reason") but you will not incline to do it... BUT do you know that you can control how much can someone else can influence your mode? Of course you do! Because from now and again you have those amazing days when you are in an incredible mood and NOTHING and NOBODY can change it... And my question is "why can we be like that every day?". This one of my goals (or challenges) for this year: to try to be happy for no good reason, and it's working for me... How wants to give it a try?

BUUUT what's a "monthiversary"??? That's a good question with a extremely funny answer...An anniversary is when you celebrate every year something important that happen at some point, therefor a monthiversary is something that you celebrate every month, seems logic, no? If our memory serves as good, we used to do that in high school or middle school with our new relationships (everybody used to do it at some point, no matter how cool they are or were). So considering my New Year's resolution I thought that it will be appropriate to bring back the monthiversary... What am I monthiversaring, that's easy to guess... But is this so important?! And now comes the funny part: today is the monthiversary of an amazing thing and the anniversary of an awful thing (which coincided with another bad thing that happen some years back). Which is unbelievable! What were the odds of that happening?

My thoughts about today?! I celebrated this day like a normal Saturday (cleaning, studying and going out) but still this is one the most amazing days so far...

Have an amazing weekend!

The art of asking dump questions

Hi!

I attended an amazing talk about innovation by Greg Horowitt last week and he talked about a lot of unusual things and at some point he said that we have to "master the art of asking dumb questions" and that got me thinking... I have the tendency to ask a lot of questions and that is annoying for others and also, sometimes, it makes me vulnerable... Why i said that? I don't know how is "normal" for you in your country, but in Romania every body assumes that you have to know everything and it is embarrassing to ask questions because people start treating you differently (like you are stupid) even though they don't know the answer to your question... I fully disagree with this mentality because if you stay in your comfort zone and you don't try to improve your condition you will not achieve nothing worth it in life... Although i agree that you don't have to work for the most important things in life like love or family, that doesn't mean that you have to wait for everything to fall into your lap... I am a fully believer in God and I am aware and grateful for all the things that He gifted me with, but I also know that i have to help myself in order for God to help me... You will ask now "what has that to do with asking dumb questions?" Nothing and everything to be honest... 

Nobody is born learned nor knows everything about everything (or just his area of interest), so if we (as human beings and specialists) want to keep up with today's progress and evolve at the same pace we have to LEARN ALL OUR LIFE! "That's crazy talk!" you might say, because the only reason for what you go to school is to learn "everything" and after that you go to work to apply what you learned, but things are not that simple in real life... It is true that you are not obliged to learn all the time to be successful at your work place, but you have to keep in mind that being successful is something extremely subjective (what i consider as bringing success to my life is not the same thing that it will make your life successful) so we cannot measure success, nor personal growth. And here is where asking "dumb" questions makes a big difference in how successful is one's life... I used "dumb" because this questions that I am talking about are not really dumb question, but more basic questions (things that everyone assume that they know by default, but they do not). Now going back to Mr. Horowitt, he is a very successful man from many points of view (he started companies, he is worldly known through his research work and his book and more), he was extremely proud of the fact that he asks a lot of questions and I fully believe that this one of the reasons why he is so successful, what do you think?

I think that if you tend not to ask questions when you do not know something, you will start being self conscientious of your lack of knowledge and being ashamed by it, which will affect the way in that you interact with others, because no one likes the idea of being inferior in some way so you will start attacking and trying to put down people that know more than you do (funny thing this Mr. Ego) or start surrounding yourself with people that have the same level of knowledge as you and this for sure will prevent you to improve yourself... and this is how mediocrity starts developing in your life... 

Mediocrity is such a hurtful word and most of the people try to avoid this word when referring to others or themselves. Mr. Ego will not accept that you are mediocre so you will start being aggressive or introverted just to protect yourself... And this is not even the worst part, which is that if you are aware of your mediocrity or of the one of the people around you (without pointing it out, just trying to avoid it) people will be even more aggressive because they will feel that you are judging them (which is nonsense). Honestly I do not understand this need of the people to compare themselves with others, if you really want to improve yourself by comparing with someone else you should all the time compare yourself with past versions of you and trying to become a better you. This is why you HAVE ALL THE TIME TO ASK "DUMB" QUESTIONS!

How about you? How often do you ask questions?

WHY?!

Hi! 

My name is Mădălina (oh! WAIT! How you say that?! - you can say it how you like it, everybody else is like that). Who am I?! That's a good question... In a completely random order: a 25 years old Romanian woman (that means a person from Romania, wait...where is that?!), a telecommunication engineer and now i am doing my master's degree in Computer Science (and you say you're a girl?!), passionate about reading, writing, photography, traveling, fashion (I think it's enough for the moment) and giving my opinion about everything, an Orthodox Christian but I practice Sahaja Yoga (wait...aren't those like two religious?!), and...

I am already starting to look too complicated, no? And if it's so, do I have friends or do people like me? Of course I have friends and obviously people like me (or at least I like to believe that :)) ). Some of my friends think that I am funny, others annoying, some know me as the "why-person", because I HAVE to ask all the time "WHY?" ("why you do that?", "why it's that like that and not like this?", "why?", "no, but why?""...), others just judge me... How do I feel about this? Should I start not meeting knew people or maybe become less complicated? What do you think? I have a better idea (i have this tendencies of having better ideas than the other, pretty annoying no?): I will live my life as I want, trying to not interfere in other people's life...

Still who am I??? If I have to choose, I choose to be a (good) person... All the things that I do and how I react might define, but I choose to be better than all of them... How about you? Who are you? How can you define yourself? By your work? By yout friends or by your family? Or maybe by your hobbies?

WHY do I do this?! Because I have lots of thoughts that I want to share with the world, because I like to write my thoughts and ideas, because I want to meet (virtually and maybe someday physically) amazing people. I think that we can learn something from all the people around us...sometimes we learn WHAT to do, and sometimes WHAT NOT to do, we just have to really listen... There is a saying that I love a lot: If you have ears to listen and eyes to see you can learn something new daily and enjoy life...

What you should expect from me? To read random thoughts about life, to know new things or just a new perspective on things, and most of all to laugh and relax for some minutes while reading my posts...

What I expect from you? To write below what do thing about the things I write and to enjoy my humble blog ( although I am not a big fun of this word, we can use it once in a while)...

*You should check out the movie Despicable me, to understand what I am talking about... Talking about the movie...do you know the soundtrack? It's one of my favorite songs EVER...

'Till next time... try to be...